How To: Be More Carefree

posted on: Tuesday, July 31, 2018

Don’t let your limiting self thoughts dictate the way you live your life. Some simple steps on how to be more carefree.

Stop giving a fuck (about what others think about you)

It’s true. Life is 110% more fun and enjoyable when you don’t care what other people think.

When I was a child, I was too busy climbing trees and digging in the dirt to spare a thought about what anyone thought of my brightly coloured 80s style clothes or what car my parents were driving. And I’m sure most other children before the 00s were like this too.

When you’re a child, you hardly have a sense of opinion yourself, so why would the thought of other people’s thoughts cross your mind? I never used to judge others a child so I guess I thought no one was judging me.

This carefree way of living carried all the way to about my second last year of primary school and then I went to high school. Where things changed drastically. It was a totally different world.

If I could have given myself one piece of advice for back then, it would have been, you do you.

If you went to high school, no matter whether you had lots of friends or none, it was probably one of the most brutal times of your life. No one likes to admit it, but high school is no easy feat. There’s no point in living with regrets but if I could have just focussed on my opinions of myself instead of what others thought about me, I think it would have been a lot more enjoyable.

Even after high school, it’s easy to get caught up in the thoughts of others. It’s hard not to when we’re so conditioned by media to care about trivialities based on looks and status, but it can be done.

Your own opinion of yourself is the one that matters the most

You look at movies like Mean Girls and think they’re totally blown out of proportion, but they’re not that far away from the realities of high school.

If I could have realised back then that my opinion of myself was, is, will always, be the most important one, then things would have been a lot different. Once you realise that no one besides you can live your life, it’s easy to make slow and steady changes based on what your true self wants.

A lot of people base their career choices on what their parents wanted for themselves or for prestige, but then end up working jobs they hate. If you make choices based on family, friends or society, you can’t expect to find happiness.

If you know what you want in life, you need to make that decision because you’re the one who has to live with it. Your parents may be disappointed in the short term and you might not have a glamorous job that society commends, but valuing your own opinion of yourself more than those of others will allow you to be more carefree and ultimately, happy.

ABOVE: Pandora Festival Collection bracelets and Spiritual Symbols ring

Thoughts become reality

If I could have changed the way I used to respond to situations, I would have shrugged it all off as if it didn’t matter. Instead, I focussed attention on these little things that shouldn’t have mattered and it added fuel to fire. Everything would always get so much worse than it should have been and it would all snowball from there.

What you think, you become.

What you feel, you attract.

What you imagine, you create.

– Buddha.

One of the easiest ways to change your mindset is to tell yourself you already are, what you want to be. I am a big believer (and nutcase as my brother would put it) in manifesting through thought. I always knew in this as child but somewhere along the journey of growing up, I just forgot about it.

Think about it, ever have one of those days where something goes wrong in the morning  and then it’s all downhill from there? It’s because when one thing goes wrong, we get irritated, then something else doesn’t go to plan as a result of it, then it just snowballs and you end up thinking you’re misfortunate or it’s just a shitty day when really, it’s your thoughts making the day so bad. It might be easier to stay in a state of anger or frustration because that’s how you feel in the moment but you could also just take accept it, shrug it off and smile. Try it next time and see how it works out for you.

What does this have to do with being carefree? If your thoughts can dictate your reality, then why not pretend you’re carefree? The more you practice this, even when you really feel anxious or uneasy about anything on the inside, it becomes second nature. Fake it until you make it, am I right? Practice how you want to feel on the inside and watch it manifest on the outside. Practice makes perfect and trust me, it’s very unlikely anyone will notice or even care. Which brings me to my next tip.

No One Even Cares

If I didn’t care about what people thought about me so much in high school, I very much think that no one else would have cared either. Instead I made myself a target by giving too much care to things that shouldn’t have mattered.

We’ve all heard this so many times, but most people are just too absorbed in themselves to care about anyone else. Of course there are exceptions, but how will they affect you? I mean, how many times do you judge others for their clothings choices or how they look? Probably hardly ever. You should be busy worrying about yourself.

And if you’re constantly judging people please, go read this article and come when you’re feeling a little less critical.

Anyway, I digress. Most people don’t care and you probably won’t see the rest ever again anyway. So why are you so hung up on being judged?

Pursue imagination& connect with your inner child

It’s easy to lose imagination when every one is so glued to their screen these days.

The only video games we had as children were a computer (the kind you needed to type codes and commands in let the computer know what you wanted to do) and my cousin’s old Super Nintendo. Even so, we were only allowed so much screen time so I spent most of my time digging in dirt, cutting up my mum’s flowers and climbing trees, pretending I lived in a jungle. Now when I look around, I see kids everywhere with iPads, phones and portable gaming consoles.

Now we’re too worried about things that shouldn’t matter thanks to the rise of social media. How can we remedy our imaginations though? By thinking more like children.

One of my favourite ways to do this, is to go outside and play in the dirt with my son, or when I don’t feel like getting covered in mud, by incorporating more whimsical things into my life. Things like these Pandora pieces from their festival collection. Like I mentioned before, I used to have a really outlandish sense of style, but since blogging, I fell into the all black, all white outfit combination routines and lost my own sense of style. These Pandora pieces though, are definitely something I would have loved as a child with their  pastel rainbow colours and playful charms.

I also love wearing more playful pieces with different materials and fun colours and prints. Sneakers usually always makes for bringing the inner child out of you too. Prepare for tree climbing and running around like a kid.

It’s little things like this that serve as a reminder to myself not to take life too seriously and to let go and be more carefree.

Find some carefree friends

You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with – Jim Rohn.

If this is true (and I undoubtedly believe it is), then find some friends who encompass your own interests and aspirations. It seems like a difficult task, to make new friends, especially as an adult, but when you realise your own truths, you will find that you start attracting the type of people you want in your life.

Partake in fun activities that interest you and you will find a lot of people with similar interests will be into that activity too. I’ve made a lot of friends through blogging this way.

Find out what type of carefree things you want to do, then find out where you can do them with like minded people. It’s a very easy way to make some new friends and learn some new things both about things you might have interests in and yourself.

Find some spontaneous friends and their carefree way of living will eventually rub off on to you.

Above all, remember not to take everything so seriously

This might be a morbid way to end such an article, but just take a moment to realise that we’re all going to die in the end anyway. Remembering that we’re all here by a mistake is probably the easiest way for me to regain my carefree attitude. Why live your life according to other people’s standards and expectations? Everything comes to an end eventually. Even this Earth will, so why not enjoy things the way you want to?

Every time you find yourself a little on the serious side, remember to take a moment to create a moment because if we all did things by the book without any spontaneity, life would be a very boring event and everything would slip by unnoticed.