Seeing Red – Red Matching Set

posted on: Friday, June 29, 2018

A red outfit two ways and defusing anger when it strikes.

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Red crop top with jeans. Perth fashion blogger.
Shannon Valle. Drawstring denim jeans with crop top.

Keep. Your. Temper.

This year, I’ve had a lot of crazy realisations. Thanks Kylie…

The first of which relates to attitude. Like I mentioned in a previous post on how to be girl boss, I grew up being pretty spoilt. You can imagine how this would result in me losing my temper when things didn’t go my way.

This year I’ve really been focusing on being more mindful. Mindful of how my actions affect the others, mindful of how my habits may impact upon the environment, mindful of what goes on my plate (ok, so this one has been a little more difficult for me) and more mindful of my own emotions and attitude.

Drawstring denim boyfriend jeans.
Spanish off the shoulder crop top.
Bohemian style crop top outfit.
Red gypsy outfit. Bohemian inspired outfit.
Red maxi skirt outfit.

Anger Management

Anger is a natural response to a perceived provocation. It’s a protective mechanism, which can cover up emotions and vulnerability. It can serve as a catalyst for change and it can be helpful in making fast decisions. It’s not the most pleasant of emotions but helpful and necessary in understanding some aspects of life and your self.

While it serves a purpose in certain situations, it doesn’t help to harbour feelings of anger and resentment for any longer than necessary. Identify the problem and move on. Observe it but don’t let it take over.

All is easier said than done though right?

How exactly do you move past feelings of anger?

Red maxi skirt outfit with matching red crop top.
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How to wear a red crop top.

Cool, Calm & Collected

Walk it off or punch it out. For the most part, I am a pretty chill, low maintenance person. I am also one of those people that sits there and marinates in all of their emotions until something makes me snap. And if you’re the straw that breaks this camel’s back, then you’d better have some heavy armour on because I when I see red, no phone or car is too expensive for me to smash. Now though, I’ve found better ways to channel my anger. Having a punching bag or something else I can smash without doing damage is one way. Going for long solo walks and listening to podcasts is another. I think most of us can connect any song to our emotions and parts of our lives, so finding an interesting or funny podcast is a good way to keep your mind busy from creating even more rage-laden thoughts. A more therapeutic way is to clean. I like putting things away and cleaning up so cleaning when I’m angry is kind of relaxing. Does anyone else do this too?

Take a few deep breaths. It sounds boring, and quite frankly useless, but working on your breathing can work miracles on all sorts of emotional issues like anger, anxiety and hopelessness. Take a deep breath in and remember that you’re here in this present moment and that nothing else (even that test coming up you haven’t studied for) matters right now. Collect all your thoughts then work it from there. Because you really can’t work out anything when you’re huffing and puffing fire out through your nostrils. You need to give the monkey in your mind something to do. But because my monkey brain is too hyper, I like to do some yoga to expend some of my energy at the same time.

Sleep it off. Some of us just need a good nights rest to set everything right. I personally do not sleep a lot but when tiredness begins to strike, I can become incredibly grumpy. My friends liken it to a sooky child who stayed up late at a family party who and has to be carried into bed from the car. But once I’m rested, all is well again in the land of Shannon. I don’t like to hold on to emotions that don’t serve me, so try getting some shut eye and seeing how you feel afterwards can sometimes work just as easily as the reset button on your wifi.

Let it go. Never seen Frozen but I can agree with this sentence. This one takes a bit of practice though. It’s definitely not easy to do if you haven’t trained yourself in doing so. Holding on to resentment towards yourself or anger towards another person does nothing but hurt you own self. It does nothing but hurt your own self. Just think about how difficult it is to change things about yourself. Now think about trying to change other people. You just can’t do it and you can’t change the past. You can create the future though and if you’re mad at someone, either let them know what they did (if they’ll listen) or cut them out. If you’re mad at yourself, work out what went wrong and set little goals on making sure it doesn’t happen again.

Red crop top with jeans outfit.
Red bohemian outfit. Red gypsy outfit.
Red off the shoulder Spanish crop top with mom jeans. Shannon Valle.
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Bohemian outfit. Red matching set outfit.

The Other Side

What if you’re on the other side of anger though? How do you talk to someone who wants to take your head off and kick it halfway around the world?

It’s not easy to make someone see sense or your point of view when they’re about to explode. Even when you’ve taken on a calm nature. Never mind whether you’re wrong or right. The other person is only going to see what they want to see. The best way is to accept that people only perceive from their own level of consciousness. Ever heard the saying, you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink?

If someone is really uncooperative, simply leave them be. They’ll either come around and you’ll be able to sort things out later on or they won’t and you’ll know in your heart if this is someone you’ll really want in your life.

It can be a difficult situation to handle, but anger can arouse changes that may be necessary and help you learn to accept that the only thing we can really control is ourself.

What are your tips in managing anger from both yourself and others? Leave them in the comments so we can all learn something from each other.

How to wear a red crop top.
How to wear a red crop top.
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Mom jeans with crop top outfit.
Spanish inspired outfit.